People Unveil What Ended Their Relationships—And You'll See Yourself in These Stories

Redditor u/ Holy-hamster16 recently asked The folks from Reddit were asked, "When did you realize, 'This person isn’t right for me?'” Their responses could help you revise your checklist of warning signs to be aware of:

1. We were engaged, but I was presented at a workplace gathering as 'their friend.'

—u/ sisigenjoyerz

2. "When he hit his head against a brick wall because he was angry at me."

—u/ No-Armadillo-8615

3. "When he kept getting mad about stupid things. I didn’t want to be with someone who got angry so easily."

—u/ Independent-Day-6458

4. "She admitted she used to talk softly so I couldn't hear her, while she knew I have hearing issues with really bad tinnitus."

—u/ tmkn09021945

5. He had an affair with my sister.

—u/ OddLeeEnough

6. "With my first wife, I don't remember what exactly happened, but there was a moment when I looked at her and thought, 'There is no way I'm having kids with this person.' Granted, she was an emotional mess, and she'd been getting worse over time. Things had piled up, and it was like a switch had flipped. Just one day, I said 'NOPE.'"

—u/ sniksniksnek

7. "He showed up to pick me up in a motorcycle. He had a helmet for himself, but not for me. He at no point mentioned he owned a motorcycle before the date."

—u/ Madea_onFire

8. I had planned to attend a friend’s punk performance at our neighborhood record store/bookshop. My buddy was behind the wheel and spent the entire drive griping about not understanding why I would “squander cash on an ephemeral event.” Despite his complaints, I attempted to clarify that supporting my peers brought me joy and provided a novel evening out—an opportunity I rarely got due to his reluctance for us to venture out often. Regardless of my attempts, he continued ranting about why anyone would opt for such fleeting entertainment instead of more enduring pursuits. The term "temporary" echoed repeatedly from him throughout the journey. Finally fed up, I retorted, "Since life itself is short-lived, I intend to make the most of what time remains." Upon hearing this as nonsense, I responded with, "It appears you and I view existence quite differently; perhaps we're simply two individuals who aren't meant to see eye-to-eye on these matters."

—u/ Jupiter_Matthews

9. I directly questioned her, but she lied.

—u/ Wisebutt98

10. When he declined my hug because we were at his workplace and his "work crush" was present, my emotions switched off instantly. I decided to end our relationship right then. It wasn’t difficult for me; I simply moved on without hesitation. There was absolutely no possibility of reconciliation.

—u/ ProfessionalLow7555

11. He was unkind to my 4-year-old nephew.

—u/ dicisbshk

12. During intimacy, he experienced an unexpected loss of arousal which led him to panic so intensely that I felt threatened. This kind of incident had never occurred previously, as far as he explained. His reaction escalated quickly; he stood up abruptly and became furious—so much so that he began banging the door. At that moment, I thought to myself, ‘Whoa, can I really be with this person?’ The whole situation seemed to pull back a curtain, revealing how intolerable his constant self-victimization truly was.

—u/ naturesbookie

13. "When I had to always either be with her, or on a phone call with her, just about every minute of my day."

—u/ Adnauseamdeath

14. "Maybe this is petty, but she thought the old lady from Titanic And the person from the Joan of Arc movie turned out to be the same individual. After only a few weeks of dating, I discovered she was inundated with an overwhelming amount of incorrect information, which made it impossible for me to continue.

—u/ fafofkwk

15. The moment I understood he was his mother's favorite. That was truly the cause of our breakup. Whenever she made nasty remarks towards me, he'd always defend her by claiming, ‘She didn’t intend to be so harsh.’ Her constant disrespect during each family gathering became unbearable. It won't happen again.

—u/ yhlqmdlgpapi

16. She flirtatiously handled kitchen knives. I responded with an "Okay." It seemed odd, yet not necessarily a major concern as things were otherwise progressing smoothly. How mistaken I was! Several weeks afterward, she shared photos of herself posing with pistols. For about one and a half weeks, I wrestled with figuring out how to end the relationship safely. That same week, she ended it because she believed my lack of reciprocation regarding her level of intimacy made me unsuitable for her needs. Although deeply upset, I told her sincerely that she merited someone far more fitting; someone capable of meeting those requirements. During that period, I switched phone numbers and moved forward without looking back.

—u/ lions2lambs

17. I asked him to let me make airplane sounds for him, but he sulked when I didn't. He's 25 years old.

—u/ FarPolicy970

18. "His breath smelled like milk all the time. He'd always text me about his poops."

—u/ Sea_Accident_6138

19. "He refused to get a job and stayed at home pissing into bottles for some reason. His mother also called me a gold digger. Mind you, I was the only one working and paying for his car note, his insurance, the rent, the food, the utilities — but sure, I'm a gold digger."

—u/ Steambunny

And finally...

20. The intensity of his kiss was something new for me. He seemed to push his tongue too far into my mouth, which made it quite off-putting.

—u/ Hoozits_Whatzit

Share your own relationship nightmare tales? I'll see you in the comments!

The entries have been modified for brevity and clearness.